Petrified…… the dictionary defines it as “so frightened that one is unable to move; terrified”. This is a state of being for many of us in this world. I often feel this way. I felt petrified when I was asked to write a blog for this site. My mind said, “No way, I can’t do that. I am not smart enough to write something. There is nothing that I can write on. No one will want to read what I write. I don’t know how to do that” Around and around my thoughts swirled. It is a feeling that that stops us. It is a feeling that causes us to doubt ourselves. It is a feeling that causes us to not do. It is a feeling that is so overwhelming.
Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do I do it to myself? I am a trained counselor. I have been working in the field for over 20 years. I know that I am highly educated. I know that I keep current on the trends in the field. I know that I am knowledgeable. I know that I strive to stay current and up to date on the research. I know what I would say to a client that I am working with. So why does worry and fear stop us?
Often in times of feeling petrified, I look for wisdom to help me overcome. One of my favorite bits of wisdom was said by Ralph Waldo Emerson. He said “Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world”. This is so very true. Fear, feeling petrified defeats us a human beings. I defeated myself with thoughts of not being able to produce and not being smart enough. Franklin D. Roosevelt said “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself”. I thought about this and thought that maybe he was right. What did I have to fear in writing the blog? All I could do was try my best. What is the worst that could happen? Dale Carnegie said, “If you want to conquer fear, don’t sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” So I went after conquering my fear of writing, ok I have to admit that I was sitting at home writing but that is beside the point. When I got to this point, I realized I had done what I was afraid of doing. I was not petrified because I was not unable to do it. The words of others can be so inspiring and helpful. Dale Carnegie also said, “You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind.” I do believe that he is correct. I also believe that we often need the support and help of others to get past these fears.
Here at Alder Grove, we are here to help get past these fears. We are here to help provide the inspiration and support to conquer fears. In my favorite quote ever, “You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think” which was said by Winnie the Pooh who was a very wise bear.
So in the written words of Tammy Lange, “Thank you for reading my words which I wrote to overcome my fears."